HAPPPY NEW MONTH PEOPLE and HAPPPY MID-YEARRRR. So it’s the last day of our series. To everyone who hooked up, shared their opinions and forwarded the posts, I say a very big thank you. We’ll call it a wrap with WRITING YOU OWN LOVE STORY.
This year, I’ve just had a lot of learning to do about love. Some of them, I’m still trying to process but we’ll just make do with how far I’ve come. Everywhere on youtube, you see young couples between 19-20 getting married… y’all should go check it out and read up on different stories. Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m trying to drive at something so just be open-minded.
The first and most important thing you need to know In writing your own love story is that you need to OWN your relationship. NEVER forget that it is YOUR relationship and you can do whatever you please, negatives included which should not be your main focus but the reality. It is YOUR relationship, you choose who to take advice from, what to do, actions to take. I’m speaking in singularity, joining you and your partner as one.
Yes, it is important that we love with reason but most times we are consumed with many what-if’s that we start over doing our reasoning. I would say that the most important thing is that the both of you have an understanding of where you’re heading and stay focused on that, it makes planning easier. It’s never to late to start planning. If this is cleared…
Who says you can’t get married at 20 and start a simple adventurous life on an island somewhere in Africa where your man fishes and you sell off the produce (I’m laughing)
Who says you can’t have a court marriage, move in with your man and wait till everything is in place before you do a proper traditional marriage and the rest (since we’re africans).
Who says you can’t get married in the Caribbean just for the fun of it.
I’m really fooling around but I just hope you get the point of this. YOUR relationship falls on you, don’t be stereotyped to how your parents fell in love, or have this ideal proposal you want your man to do. Nobody said you shouldn’t take positive cues from other people’s relationship but make your relationship how you want it.
If what you want is something nice and splendid, stop wishing and start acting. Understanding of yourselves is key, know what can work and won’t work. Your happiness is what really matters at the end of the day so you need to carry out some self-evaluation on yourself.
On a final note guys, no relationship is perfect and will always have challenges so… Don’t give up easily, good things take time, have a very good understanding of each other to avoid unnecessary complications. Calm down, trust your process and trust God. THANK GOD IT’S FRIDAY… ENJOY YOUR WEEKEND.