Hi guys, TGIFš. Grab a seat and letās talk about something youāll really relate to. Iām being a bit personal today so you get the message.
So Iāve been relating with this friend of mine for some time now. Personally, I believe friendship is supposed to be solid before getting into a relationship. Hereās the thing though, most of my friends just know me on A VERY SERIOUS SURFACE level. I keep it that way because I feel not everyone is ready to handle my different layers and scars.
The highlight of this gist is that; Personally, I feel in this generation, everybody just wants the good stuff. āYo, Lois… youāre energy is crazy, you rock girl, life of the partyā. I know all these things trust me.
What I donāt know is if Iām willing to risk letting people into some parts of my life where they see through my energy on some days and tell me point blank āI know you posted that cause you were conflicted, I know you posted that cause you were just trying to cheer yourself up…ā
Truth is, majority of people just love the good stuff and when thereās a pause, itās like… yoooo sis, yooo bro, this isnāt the content we signed up for. Uhmmmmm youāre becoming boring, is this all you want to talk about, is this the only thing happening,itās never that deep you know, brush it off. They seem to love you until they stop loving you.
So yeah, do you vibe with people just for appearances or you want to be involved in uncovering the layers that make those appearances make sense?
TGIF guys.ā¤ļø
Hm. Appreciate this post, and the openness you are sharing with us here. Any relationships must be safe and trusting. And, as I’ve said to many people, and, yep, to myself too over the years; anyone you consider a friend, should take all that you have to offer, and all that you are. All of you. Not just the “good,” but all of it. And, it is your choice how, when, where, what, and to whom you share yourself with. Be well. š
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Nice one Jeff
Nice one.
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All relationships ought to go beyond surface appearances. It should involve every aspect, good, baby and ugly. Going back to your question, i would like to be involved in every aspect
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Well thatās nice that you would. We should be praying for more of you then.
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Very true dear. Very true.
It is well.
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Truth is if Iām in a relationship (friendship included), I want to know everything… but I find that a lot of my friends withhold a lot and show me just the surface, sometimes Iām even scared to open up about certain things just because the level of openness isnāt the same. I want to know everything because I also want them to know everything going on with me … oh well, š¤·š¼āāļø
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My dear girl, same here but with me, I feel friendships are formed based on a lot of criteria. So I might have a friend whose personality is not similar to mine and so naturally I wonāt bother saying some things because I donāt expect her to relate to how Iāve processed it in my thoughts. I open up when I feel the same energy and I know the person understands me and is willing also.
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Now this, I relate to. Often times friends are categorized in our lives, so there are the hype men, the deep ones and the one that have people asking you why are you even friends with such or such person.
So, yes I also want to open to people. But I almost always find myself asking “hey boo, which batch is this one”.
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I feel like you canāt call someone who is just there for the vibe a friend ( thatās my opinion)
To call someone a friend you have to be ready and willing to over look appearances and know that okay no one is perfect and most definitely there will be hard times…
To be honest I feel like I can soo relate with this post cause these things happen a lot, most people that call them selves your friends are just there to cover up space, most of them donāt even know the real you all there own na omo that babe na vibe but when you need them they have disappear.
Like Mimi said friends are categorized and I agree, I can say in my case I have FRIENDS ( used capital letter for a reason), hype masters, boring fellows, and some are just contacts lists…
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Krrrrššā¤ļøā¤ļøā¤ļønice one
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speaking my mind here…
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